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November 20, 1963, Letter from Korea

8:30 PM
20 November, 1963

Dear Folks,

 Got your letter, the fruit cake, and the peanut brittle, etc. All today, all the guys and me too were awfully happy to see it come. Thanks!
 Please pardon the fact that I haven’t written recently.  We have been in the field for about two weeks now, and it looks at the moment as though Thanksgiving will be spent out here.
There has been a lot of rain, snow, sleet, and a cold that just doesn’t seem to care how many clothes you put on. Commo seems to have been hit hardest by this alert. The phones have been silent for about 3 days. I’m beginning to wonder if there is anyone else left out here but us.
 Still, a battalion of tanks came down the river bed headed north about an hour ago, and the engineers have been skittering around ever since trying to undo the damage they did.
You know, it’s hard to believe I was 20 years old as of yesterday. It has been an awfully fast year. And a lot happened during it.
 This tent has all sorts of things in its favor that no home should be without. A field phone that doesn’t work. A coal-oil stove that soaks the ground around it in kerosene, a typewriter with no carriage throw, a file desk with nothing in it, and a camouflage  (this is probably the most useful thing around, because air harassment  has been nil in this camp). I imagine this camp is one of the smallest, most nearly forgotten ones in Korea at the moment. There are about 8 CP tents here, and numerous pup tents around. It consists of civil affairs personnel, 16 personnel, DSO personnel, and a few non-combatants. There is no activity whatsoever in camp the majority of the time. The best I can figure it we are somewhere to the rear of division rear, along the Han, and north Seoul and Yong Dong Po. I understand (through the grapevine) that EUSA HQ moved out of Pusan and the 7th Division is up on the line with the 8th and 9th Cavalry right now. Also there is a kind of confirmed rumor that the 7th Special Forces Group has moved off Okinawa and is up there with the best of them. The Slikky Boys are terrible out here. The Colonel caught pneumonia this week and they hauled him south this morn. 
 Closing for now- write soon and I’ll do the same.
 Happy Thanksgiving!
As always,
Jack

Thoughts About Relationship Issues

Most of this is from the Q/A site where the Ask Old Jules questions come from.

Guys what do you honestly want from a relationship/marriage?

Nobody wants the same things. I’m approaching 70 times around the sun and one of the things I’d do differently is sit down with individuals going into relationships with me and discuss thoroughly what expectations each had, the stuff that goes without saying, the “assumed” stuff. I’d want to know and communicate the minimums, the maximums, the bottom lines.

But nobody ever does. Asking strangers in the genre won’t help. Some of us gotta have someone beat us, tie us up, some of us want drugs, money, rock and roll. Some want to eat popcorn and stare at a TV all day picking our noses. We’re all different.

I left a lot of unhappy women along my back trail and I have fond memories of all of them. If I was the sort of person worries about such things I’d think they didn’t do themselves a favor by spending months and years with me as a primary piece of their lives telling me how much they loved me, valued me how great I was, but carrying bitterness or hatred after I left. I think they’re laying aside something they loved at the time in favor of retrospectively hating it and me.

Maybe they’d feel better about it afterward if we’d put it all down on paper ahead of time and each signed it. I never made a secret of my intentions. The secret was they believed they could change me into something I wasn’t.

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What you want is for you to decide in your own life. What anyone else thinks about it has zero value. What you think about the wants and needs of others is of zero significance.

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Standards is a word with implied superiority, wisdom, morals. Treat it that way if you wish, but it’s horse manure for you to attempt to preach it on the streets.

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Dependency relationships last as long as you put up with them. My main one lasted 25 years, me thinking I could fix it. When I finally left she blamed me for not giving her an ultimatum, said she didn’t realize how important it was for me. That’s been more than 20 years ago and I still puzzle over it (and still miss her good points).

Die early and avoid the fate.

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Is there an age after which it’s pointless to bother with marriage?

I’d say 16 would be a good age to begin the comprehension, but it took me until I was almost 50. That approaches two decades of finding out a lot of women haven’t realized it yet.

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Depends on what both members of a relationship openly agree ahead of time to have expected of them and live up to. There’s no “normal” tacit agreement until it’s agreed to by both parties.
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All this moralizing is about moralizing. It isn’t about reality and fleshed out characters. It’s about how the people answering hope it will be in their own lives measured by their own values, then extended outward by default as how everything should be for everyone so’s to make anything else unacceptable (down in the microscopic environment of their own lives and heads).

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My personal experience with married women (I wasn’t married to) was that they loved telling me in a motel bed after sex all the things they hated about their husbands, his inadequacies, his most personal traits I didn’t want to hear.

But that’s only about 100 women, plus or minus. Probably some who didn’t go to bed with me were different.

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A long relationship is 20 years. A relationship less than five years is a lark.

Leave the fling behind you and learn from it. If you feel lost it’s because you had a dependency relationship and you need to do some self-examination before hooking yourself onto someone else to sponge drama and a life from.

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Bringing home dvds and toys?

I don’t have a partner, but if I stood to get one of those digital microscopes with a usb to plug into the comp they sell as being educational for kids, I’d consider it a beginning of a long relationship. Followed up with a DVD of Doctor Strangelove I’d consider a temporary long relationship.
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Why is marriage so important? Marriage is a key relationship in our lives. What are three good reasons this is true?

People love dependency relationships
People love drama
People owe it to the kids to have marriages, mama and papa, one each

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Is marriage an unnecessary risk?

I think it’s a waste and a self-destructive dependency relationship involving two people. Risk isn’t included in the mix. Whatever happens is just part of the rest.

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30ish is one of those crucial ages when women wake up and discover they’ve been stuck with decisions they were too young to make when they made them.

No reflection on you. You were too young, also.

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If spouse cheats it’s your fault?

What your spouse does isn’t a statement about you (and sometimes not about him). It’s a statement about a relationship that’s out of balance one way or another, one that doesn’t fit. Nature hates anything out of balance and individuals behave the ways they’re driven by nature. Mostly, anyway, especially when they’re young and the hormones are raging.

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Ideal age woman for a 25 year old guy?

The simple fact is you need to find a woman of 40 who might be able to put up with you. When she ditches you get another one of the same age until you get there and one keeps you.

Wasting time with a woman under 40 is playing with worthless toys that carry a scorpion sting without being able to give you any wisdom you wouldn’t find for yourself.

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I was married for 25 years. The far too many women over the succeeding 20 or so years might have each still been in my life if it weren’t for the marriage issue. I never intend to marry again and I make no secret of it. But almost everyone of them secretely thought I’d change my mind. Made themselves miserable convincing themselves I did them a disservice by not doing what I carefully told them up front I wouldn’t do.

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Does a woman always need to climax before sex?

It helps. Multiples help. A partner who “listens” to the body of the woman and plays it the way a good musician plays an instrument helps.

It ain’t worth the price of admission if you aren’t sending her through the ceiling.

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Ask Old Jules: What’s good about life, What’s it like without hope, How texts shape our understanding, Why are humans superficial, What things we have no control over

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Old Jules, what makes you feel good about being alive?

Acknowledgement of it by gratitude and forgiveness of everything it isn’t. Gratitude for that, also.

Old Jules, what is it like to be without hope?

It can be a place with a lot of quietude and satisfaction. Hope implies expectations and the antithesis of acceptance. For a person who believes expectations are a source of distraction from the better things in life and that acceptance is the fundamental goal for transcending this hostile reality being without hope is an accomplishment of major importance.

Old Jules, how do scholarly texts shape our understanding of the world around us?

Texts become doctrines. Doctrines bypass the need to reason, explain or question. Religious texts and scientific theory resemble one another in that regard. Each develops a priesthood and warrior partisans hiding along the roads to ambush new or opposing thought.

Old Jules, why are humans so superficial?

I suspect it’s hardwired, then reinforced by social conditioning. Which creates a filtering process resulting in the ‘greats’, the non-superficial among humans being purged through all manner of peelings off and classifyings if they pull it off successfully. The overall superficiality of humankind assures the ones who make it out and poke their heads above the general run will be tougher, more determined, and probably more able than those who were merely ‘above the normal’.

Old Jules, what things do you think we have no control over?

The minds, attitudes, activities and choices of other human beings,
Anything we can’t actually touch [as a practical matter] for the most part
Anything that’s already happened, which is a huge part of our consciousness and perception.

Forgiveness and Fundamental Nature of Reality: Excerpt from a letter, Part Two

I need a transition here to something else I want to say and the transition is awkward in this thought flow, almost trite.

One of the thornier paths we can choose to avoid self-damage is forgiveness. The only virtue in that path is that it avoids the even more destructive route of the state of unforgiveness (self- destructive- our unforgiveness rarely harms anyone but ourselves).

But genuine forgiveness by its nature has to be an act of self-forgiveness- a recognition that we are flawed- full of warts- that those flaws and warts are the water and fertilizer to our growth—with that recognition we can then recognize and forgive flaws in others without setting ourselves up on a superior moral plane and thereby stumbling into one of the multitude of tiger-traps hidden in the path of forgiveness.

When the path of forgiveness is allowed to lead into the more worthy path of self-forgiveness along with a recognition of the true nature of our flaws and warts, our failures–  all the instruments of growth—we’ve found a true path… along that path are the flowers of gratitude for the otherwise most devastating circumstances of the human condition.

The ultimate recognition that your life is about YOU- not about anyone else, is one of the phantoms we chase through life after life- until we recognize that simple, obvious fact we cycle through our lives blaming others, praising others, emulating others, seeking praise, seeking approval, seeking recognition in the eyes of others by doing for other and so on ad infinitum.

I’m not suggesting that doing for others is a bad thing- I am saying that the almost inevitable next step of elevating ourselves as a result of our having done so (in our own eyes- and always one eye on the approving glances of others) and especially when we make a fetish of it, is contrary to growth.

This is an ingeniously contrived reality we’ve chosen for ourselves here—it’s easy enough to understand how during the course of human history so many conflicting explanations as to the nature and purpose of life have emerged.

However, with all that, the reality hung two absolutes before us and lit them in neon—it was always there for every human to see, insistent, inarguable.

The first is the fundamental nature of the reality: every creature or life form must kill at least one other life form to live. ( Lichens and certain other plant forms are the exception, however, even most plants depend on the decomposition of the remains of living creatures for life).

This is an incredibly predatory reality- a fact which we’ve mostly forgotten through the eon, or failed to recognize the significance of it.

In order for us to achieve growth in this reality or any reality the way to growth must be to somehow act contrary to our own nature. However, we can’t possibly live without killing- even at a cellular level our bodies are engaged in warfare with other species.

And yet, given that fundamental truth, somehow the purpose of our lives here must be partially contained in the nature of the reality we chose- it’s too overwhelming otherwise.

Based on that, I’d say the ultimate goal we have here, the golden ring we are reaching for must be to spiritually transcend our predatory requirements for survival- not defeat them, but transcend them spiritually.

I believe that probably translates to recognition and respect for the oneness between ourselves and that which we consume at a profound spiritual level- I think this is what St. Francis was getting at.

We didn’t come here to voluntarily starve- we didn’t come here to kill ourselves with guilt or grief for the creature we kill- we didn’t come here to submerge ourselves in killing – to become the best killers in the entire reality- we didn’ tcome here to sanitize our killing and hide from it by wrapping it up in clear plastic so it’s unrecognizeable as a part of the creature that died to provide it as food—

What’s left? What’s hardest?

We continue to kill- experience recognition, gratitude, respect for that creature, each creature that was forfeit for our survival. I think we probably had lost the battle for this as a species, not as individuals, long before the words “ And God gave dominion over…” ever were written on some clay tablet.

Finding the reason we’re here was probably never intended to be easy. Almost as soon as the words were said they begin to mist, to cloud. “Brother Hawk”- “Brother Raven”- “Brother Rabbit”- somehow assume a meaning other than the fundamental and obvious.

Hmm… I’ve digressed. I’ll save the other absolute for another time.

Owning the Past, Deserving Kindness–Excerpt from a letter, Part One

I think it would be a timely thing for you to cease the self-recriminations about things- the past is past, now is now, future is future.

The past is sealed, dated, and notarized- filed away. The future is little more than a ghost of the imagination, of potential potential. Any focus or energy we direct to either of those is wasted energy if it goes beyond idle reflection.  Both drain the significance of the moment- all this to say the gift of hindsight is truly a gift only if we tame it and don’t allow it to become anything more than the elevator music of our lives.

Despite appearances, you own the past- it doesn’t own you. You have the power to force it into the back room closet or allow it into the dining room to eat at the table with you or into the living room to sleep on the couch and get into the way of your life and the lives of others.

The concept of deserving kindness is another one that’s destructive to the growth of the soul. We don’t go through life on some roller-coaster of worth or value based on our behavior of today, of last week.

I don’t know whether the physical manifestation of each of us in this reality is of equal value or not, but I think I can say with certainty the issue isn’t whether a person deserves kindness or not. Certainly each does. Sometimes we fail to remember this- some of us never learn it. You aren’t a paragon of virtue in this regard, and neither am I. Few people are. In the coming times some people might demand to be killed, by their behavior. Probably in those circumstances even, the real challenge isn’t in the avoidance of our responsibility to slaughter another human – the challenge will be to do it with kindness in our hearts, without malice, hatred, rancor. With the same respect for another human who demands the cessation of his life through his choices as we have for the chicken-killing hawk, the rabbit, doe, a fawn that steps into our sights at a time when our bodies demand a meal- the mouse which by its nature chews its way into our corn.

All this to say that unless we purge ourselves of the concept of whether we deserve kindness or respect for our own choices and behavior we’ll be unlikely to overcome the far more difficult challenge of giving respect and kindness to others when they make choices which are so contrary to our own interests or values. Not to say our responsibility doesn’t extend to looking out for our own interests forcibly if needed- just that when we do we dassen’t ever fail to do so in the recognition that this is a fellow soul on the long path- that where he is we’ve probably been or will be in some other life.

Despite our ego-driven beliefs to the contrary, most of the things we do or say, kind or unkind, have little importance in the lives of others. In those rare instances where this isn’t true the reason isn’t in us, but rather in the person who chooses to make it important. We have little influence on that choice in another person—rightfully so—the business of our lives is our own choices, which are plenty challenges enough.

So, when we choose to be kind and show genuine respect to others it has little to do with the other person or that person’s behavior- it’s a kindness to ourselves, mainly.  A recognition of our own thorny path- our own failures, and therefore a willingness to accept that other person and the thorny path that person walks.

Ask Old Jules: What if it’s all wrong, Meaning of life, Is life good, Does not thinking result in violence, Letting go, The ultimate question

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Old Jules, what if everything in your life is wrong?

Unlikely, though possible. The only reason for your life is to provide fertilizer for plants and act as a host for essential parasites. If everything is wrong in your life it’s the result of using a commode or toilet fixture that flushes into a public sewerage system.
If you want to correct that problem a garden spade will suffice.
But if you aren’t carrying any essential parasites or serving as a host for any, try sleeping in a public hostelry. You’re almost certain to take home bedbugs and fleas, at the very least.
Eating the occasional flea will provide you with tapeworm and other internal parasites.

Old Jules, what is the meaning of your life?

We’ve been provided the opportunity to serve as hosts for essential parasites and important pathogenic micro-organisms. That is the meaning of our lives.

Old Jules, is life good in your vision? In Genesis 1, God saw that creation was good, it says that 6 times including at the end. We can either see it as He does or we can distort it into another vision. Is life really good and bad or evil, or do we just mistakenly see it that way?

The deity the savage tribes of the Middle East created to justify their violence to their neighbors is quoted saying many things including those you mentioned. “Smite them all, destroy their crops, enslave their women,” was a favorite, with “Shall be stoned,” as a close runner-up.
That deity adopted by those primitive savages isn’t ‘good’ by any standard I accept, and nothing that deity is imagined to have said can be construed as ‘good’ [except Proverbs, I suppose, and the aesthetic beauty of Psalms, along with the beautiful irony of Job].
But life is good anyway.

Old Jules, does one who does not think…resort to violence?

No. I’ve occasionally used live traps, but a bullet to the brain is still required. In fact, a coon inside a live trap will sometimes choose to get the bullet earlier, rather than later. Coons communicate this desire by trying to reach through the wire grid and ripping the pantsleg of the person carrying the trap across the meadow to dispatch them where the fleas they’re carrying won’t jump off too nearby.
I’ve thought about this considerably.

Old Jules, how do I let go of some bad stuff that happened to me in the past? I can’t stop going over it in my mind.

You can become an adult, accept the past as being outside your control, and allow yourself to graduate from the International Reservoir of Whiners into the Planetary Society of People Living Their Lives The Best They Can MbM [Moment-by-Moment]

Old Jules, what is the ultimate question? the questions of all questions. the cream of the crop, the most intelligent question a mind can think of.

How many fingers am I holding up?

 

On Paranoia and Sociopathic Behavior, written in 2003

From Jeanne: My apologies for the weird formatting, I have not been able to figure out how to change it. Jack was referring to the years of being stalked and harrassed both before and after y2k. 
	

One interesting outcome of the prolonged period of attention I've undergone
over the past few years is that the result has been the reverse of what you'
d expect.  Instead my residual paranoia intensifying, it actually has
diminished during the last year or two.  This has manifested itself in a
number of different ways I don't care to go into, but in other ways that are
worth mentioning.

Keeping in mind that, concurrent with the activities of these people, my
material and human resources have essentially vanished; I've come to the
point where I really don't care much what they do.  When all this began I
was already in a mode of reexamining my entire value system.  The things I'd
valued most were in the process of going away, anyway, along with the value
I placed on them.  I've become a person with almost nothing to lose.

I've never been a person much influenced by fear, in any case.  Fear comes
in a lot of forms. Fear for personal security; fear of death; fear of loss
of valued possessions; fear of what others will think; fear of being alone;
fear of growing old; fear of bodily discomfort; fear of hunger and disease.
These all tend to run in groups.  A person who lacks the fear of one
probably always has a fairly loose hold on the others, too.  Today, as never
before, I've become a person who literally has nothing to be afraid of.

The probably unintended end result of all this is that I believe I'm
actually being cured of my paranoia.  A strange consequence, considering the
motive was obviously a kind of terrorism intended to do just the opposite;
intended to induce terror and intensify paranoia.


A while back I was staying at Deano’s for the night, watching television.  HBO or one of those things had a  piece they’d arranged that rattled me a bit.  There’s a guy in prison in New Jersey doing consecutive life sentences called the Ice Man.  These folks arranged for him to be interviewed over several days by an FBI psychiatrist who’s probably the top man in the field of homicidal abnormal psychology.

As I watched and listened, I was stricken by the similarities in attitude between the Ice Man and myself.  He described a number of things in detail, along with his attitudes toward them, and I found myself nodding in silent agreement while Dean squirmed in discomfort and protested that I ought to find another channel.

The Ice Man was a man with a childhood home life that resembled mine in some important ways, though he was a city boy.  His dad was a bit like my step dad, and his mother, a lot like my mother.  He described some things he did to animals as a child which weren’t too unlike some things I did to other kids, and probably an animal or two.

 The Ice Man killed someone at a fairly early age; not in a fit of rage, but in a cold, calculated way.  He had a tendency to respond to people who fucked with him, or fucked with his head, by killing them.  He did it close up and personal.  During the interview, he claimed he didn’t get any particular joy out of it, didn’t really feel anything at all.  He described one occasion where three young men were harassing him on the road.  He stopped the car and went to his trunk to retrieve a handgun there.  The other car stopped and the men walked over to him.  He killed all three and drove on.

The Ice Man became a hit man.  He says without pride or emotion that he’s probably responsible for the deaths of more than 200 people.  He says the only ones that ever gave him any feeling at all were those involving a particularly prolonged and gory torture.  He didn’t like those, and he didn’t understand why.  The fact it gave him some kind of feeling caused him some wonderment.

During the interview, the Ice Man described his attitudes toward a number of issues, his life (outside the killing arena), and generally his feelings about himself.  He was asked about some specifics concerning his lack of fear, his attitudes toward the things he did, and his own understandings about himself.

The Ice Man said he agreed to the interview in hopes of getting a better understanding of himself.  He said he wasn’t surprised other people experienced fear in certain situations, or revulsion (when compared to Dahmer’s revulsion to cutting up human carcasses), but that what he couldn’t understand was his own lack of similar feelings.

Toward the end of the interview the psychiatrist suggested they turn the situation around and allow the Ice Man to interview him, the psychiatrist.  The killer thought about this a moment and showed a subdued pleasure when he explained that this was his hope when he agreed to the interview.  He wanted to try to understand why he was the way he was.

The FBI man (a pretty cold fish, himself) explained that an unfortunate combination of three psychological traits combined to make the Ice Man the way he was.  One was fearlessness, which by itself might easily have been channeled into positive avenues.  The second was a sociopathic personality.  The third was paranoia.

The sociopathy, minus the fearlessness and paranoia, would have probably resulted in him  becoming a small time crook, a politician, or a used car dealer.  The paranoia, minus the sociopathy and fearlessness, might well have just caused him to be abusive to his family and caused him a lot of unhappiness and years of therapy.  All these conditions exist separately in individuals throughout the population in a surprisingly high incidence rate, and are manageable on a personal level.

The combination of the three, the FBI man suggested, along with his being in a place where there were mob contacts, were the key to the Ice Man’s long and successful career as a hit man.  

As I digested all this I realized what a close call I’ve had this lifetime.  I started life as a sociopath.  I didn’t know it until my experience in the jungle in Hawaii, when I got my first real look at myself during the extended time of solitude.  I can still recall, after my return from the jungle, reading about sociopathy for the first time, and realizing that was what I was, had been prior to the jungle experience, and had a strong tendency toward even then.

I worked a lot of years on that sociopathic issue.  It still lurks there in my background psychology, willing to be turned on if I’m willing to turn it on.  I’ve held it mostly in check consciously for many years, but occasionally have allowed it to emerge.

It was a number of years later when I realized I was also clinically paranoid, with a touch of manic depression thrown in for good measure.  The paranoia, I channeled into some pursuits that, while they weren’t precisely positive, they weren’t negative.  I used to be described by my friends as the MOST prepared person for any eventuality, they’d ever known.

The difference between the Ice Man and how he spent his life, and me and the way I spent mine, was merely a matter of luck, manifested in life experience.  The jungle time gave me an early awareness of one of the crucial ingredients of the soup that might have led to a life spend in some bloody avenues.  My relentless curiosity and introspection was a trait he lacked.  While he merely wondered why he didn’t experience the same feelings as other people, I dug and read and probed to understand.  The "spiritual" awakening in Tucson after my return from the jungle further contributed and acted as a brake on my behavior; helped me to understand how the kind of person I was differed from the kind of person I wanted to be.

I’m not suggesting I’ve entirely overcome any of these tendencies.  I’m not even suggesting I’ve succeeded entirely in holding the associated behaviors in check.  What I am suggesting is that I was handed a big job of work when I came into this life, and that, considering that, I haven’t done too badly.  

I think the sociopathy, I’ve succeeded almost entirely in overcoming.  The spiritual pursuits allowed me to balance and offset the sociopath tendencies.  This is not to say I couldn’t still do almost anything, completely without feeling.  But it is to say that I don’t want to do those things; don’t want to be the kind of person who does those things.

Strangely enough, as I mentioned earlier, the last few years of attention from a whole cadre of sociopaths seems to be taking care of the paranoia.  I’m only beginning to realize what a debt of gratitude I have toward them, no matter what their intentions.  These damned people are curing me without intending to.  It's entirely a matter of luck.  I might have gone through the rest of my life as a paranoid, knowing I was a paranoid; dealing with it, but with it always an issue.  It's clear to me these people would never have done what they did with the intention of helping me get rid of it, but I was fortunate enough to be within their focus; to receive their full treatment, and to have come through without doing anything to cause the chips to fall on the other side of the issue.

I've been puzzling over why the activities of the opposition ended up
affecting a cure, of sorts, instead of resulting in havoc and mayhem as they
probably intended.  I think the key point was the introduction of a
protracted series of actual threats to a person already prone to paranoid
fantasy, and acutely aware of that tendency.  By offering actual, verifiable
threats into the equation, the desire for survival forced me to carefully
examine both; to compartmentalize each, and to use a lot of caution in
discerning which was which.  They forced me to learn to distinguish between
paranoid fantasy and realtime threat on a relatively constant basis by
inserting a prolonged real threat.

In the short term, this probably wouldn't have happened, and had the process
ended in a relatively short span of time, I'd probably gone on just as
paranoid as ever; just as prone to paranoid fantasy.  Had I also been
isolated during the process, there probably would have been similar results,
or possibly much worse.  However, I had some friends to help me measure what
was fantasy and what was real.  Because I had outside confirmations that the
threats were actual, not fantasy, I maintained a (sometimes thin) hold on
reality.  Instead of the intended pathological result, I think my mind began
to chase down the roots of my unique brand of paranoia.

As I said earlier, fear (paranoia) requires as a basis for continuance,
having something of value to lose.  Concurrent with the harassment my
material resources and personal relationships eroded away.  With them a lot
of the "things" that served as anchors for the paranoia also gradually faded
out of importance or vanished entirely.  Meanwhile, my spiritual beliefs
were being internalized to a such a point as to allow my natural
fearlessness to be bastioned by a spiritual awareness that, a) I really
needed to get out of this life without adding any complications to the next
one;  b)  the things that were happening here, on an eternal scale, didn't
amount to much; and c)  from a spiritual perspective, whether those people
decided to kill me or not was irrelevant.

Once again, a lucky combination of circumstance.  But pure luck and nothing
else.

Ask Old Jules: Equality of human beings, Value of human/animal life, Why a person denies truth, Best Man/Woman relationship?

Harper, TX 2010 079

Old Jules, do you consider a busload of gang-bangers and a room full of Sarah Palin fund raiser attendees of equal value? As human beings, I mean?

I do, though I’d prefer the company of the gang-bangers.

Old Jules, how do you personally value the life of an animal compared to the life of human? Does an animal’s life mean as much or nearly as much to you as a human’s, or do you feel animals are insignificant/worthless in comparison? Also, do you believe it is ever morally right to harm/kill animals? What about humans?

My personal bias is in favor of those chunks of living, animal or human, with whom I have what I consider a contract. A personal responsibility or obligation. My four cats with whom I have contracts over, say, feral cats that come around here bothering them and sometimes injuring them. My flock of free ranging chickens over skunks, fox, possum, coyote and coon.
I don’t draw a line between human and animal in this respect. The same cartridge will take care of the entire range of threats to those with whom I have a contract.

Old Jules, what makes a person deny truth?

Human beings haven’t reached a consensus concerning the nature of truth. Just about anything is up for grabs, waved around as truth and accepted as such by someone or other. Those who choose something else will deny it.
Then there’s the huge amount of bald-face lying human beings prefer when the issue is something concrete involving their own motivations, behaviors and words, sometimes only a few minutes earlier. I honestly don’t understand this, but it doesn’t require my understanding it to exist [and be a truth].

Old Jules, what would be the Best Man-Woman relationship applicable to entire Universe? Is it One Man-One Woman or can we have a bunch of best friends in our life with whom we can share everything?

Any relationship not involving ownership and dependency would be an improvement in my opinion. My personal view is that most male/female relationships get serious a bit prematurely and that sets of unspoken expectations result. Assumed agreements never agreed to by both parties, frequently never even verbalized, which eventually lead to accusations, misunderstandings, more unspoken resentments and guilts.

I think human beings would do better in relationships if they sat down when they saw something serious coming down the pike, each carefully thinking through how much and what he/she expects of a partner in a meaningful relationship, writes it down and thoroughly discusses every aspect and nuance, short-term and long term.

Probably even something in the form of a written contract each can draw out in future times, examine what he/she actually agreed to and whether behavior has actually fallen short of it, or whether ex-post-facto expectations have crept in and become a source of problems.

Of the countless failed relationships I’ve observed [and experienced] over the past decades I believe most wouldn’t have developed at all beyond something temporary and pleasant, or wouldn’t have failed eventually had this been part of the early process.

Edit: But I’ve also observed that during the early stages both sides are hiding, holding back, avoiding all manner of matters and expectations which will later become important. Tacit dishonesty based on the ‘I don’t like this about him/her, but I’ll work on changing him/her after he/she is ‘hooked’.
That, though probably nobody consciously comes out and directly articulates it to himself/herself.

 

Another letter to Julia, age 6, Nov. 1999 (Part Two)

Continued from October  31st (Part One)…

Anyway, when you see Miss Naiad again she might only be able to see out of one eye and there might be a lot of hair missing over scar tissue on one side of her head.
All in all, she’s taking it pretty well– when I told her it would probably slow her down and make her less pretty she gave me  a playful swat with claws bared and a crooked grin– she explained that she could lose ALL her hair and both eyes and still be prettier and faster than anyone else within 50 miles.
On hearing this Mehitabel and Hydrox looked away and tried to remain civil because of Naiad’s delicate condition at the moment.
Later Mehitabel remarked to me in confidence that she considered the comment artless.
You’ll be meeting the new dog, too, if she stays around. Pooch, Ms. Pooch, Poochie, Pooch-hound, or Madam Pooch, depending on the occasion will address her. She’s a medium-sized black dog who came from an unhappy home– her mama died and her daddy married a wicked pit bull that was bad about giving Ms. Pooch what for a lot. It’s the same old story, Ms. Pooch took all she could from her step-mother, then went out in hopes of finding a better home among the Native Americans– life was harder yet until finally she was picked up by a school teacher who was wondering why she wasn’t in school.
The teacher was in the process of moving to Dakota or some other dreadful place and put out the word far and wide that Ms. Pooch needed a home… the rest is history.
Incidentally– most of her background I’ve surmised from her behavior: she hasn’t actually confided much about herself– the step-mother might have been a rottweiler or even a doberman for all I know.
Miss Pooch isn’t pretty– she’s skinny enought to have Little Richard sing an uncomplimentary song about her and call it Boney Maroney. She has some patches of hair missing over her eyes and here and there on her body– scratches a lot– all the the result of the hard life she led until now.
But with love, plenty of food, some medicine for the skin condition I think she will be a good dog– she’s already pretty happy– it doesn’t take a lot of kindness to please her so much she wiggles, scratches, curls up standing and bites the tip of her tail. I’m not overly happy to have her in my life but it’s a joy to see her recovering and being so overjoyed over simple things most dogs take for granted.
Hmmm…. — enough of this! I was going to devote this letter to telling you the finer points of navigation, physics, and astronomy, but now I’ve wasted all my time and paper.
Best to you,
Jack
10:30 PM Post Script
Your mom has a cd by a singer named Tom Russell– on it is a song named “Gallo del Cielo.” That means “Rooster Born in Heaven”– when you are bored some time ask her to play it for you, I think you’ll enjoy it.
“Gallo del cielo was a rooster made in heaven so the legends say
something something something
He had one eye rolling crazy in his head
etc.etc.etc.”

Jack

Another letter to Julia, age 6, Nov. 1999, (Part One)

Jack had already moved into his Y2K cabin and met my family when he wrote this:

Hi Julia,
Thanks for the butterfly you colored. I’m trying to find just the right place for it–if the refrigerator was higher, the door would be perfect- but in the absence of that I’ve thumb-tacked it to one of the wall studs for the time being.
Your suggestion about getting the chickens to peck a hole in the paper was a good one. However, I think you failed to take into account the communist leanings of these birds.
We had a conference on the matter and the chickens decided they were going to stand shoulder to shoulder on the matter– that they must have unanimity on it before anyone did any pecking, so as to make certain no one used the issue to curry special treatment (this while most of the Aracaunas and the black silk lace layers cast dark looks at the silkies, and certain others scowled at Lady McBeth).
In any case they couldn’t reach agreement, and the default position was that no one would peck the paper.
However, upon seeing the picture you sent the black Jap hen- Madame Butterfly- softened a bit– she hinted vainly that the coloring was intended for her. Madame Butterfly is an anarchist in any case.
So when the other birds were involved in matters important to chicken-hood– commenting in soft clucks to one another about the stuff they were scratching, jumping on tables knocking things off, scurrying here and there for morsels claimed by someone else, dodging guineas, and being alternately scared and aggressive; during all that Madame Butterfly came to me and gave me permission to say hello in her stead– a sort of Power of Attorney to sign for her.
So, not without grave reservations for the repercusions should the other chickens learn of it; not to mention the opportunities the black jap will now have for coercion or even extortion, I bend to your wishes and hers:

(Peck hole made by chicken here)

Madame Butterfly, Black Japanese Bantam, The Great Continental Divide
November 30, 1999.

Miss Naiad was badly injured by an owl last night– she is lucky to be alive.
I think it was probably a road rage incident but as you are probably know already, owls in these parts are known for drive-by shootings, too. It isn’t uncommon– you might have seen them yourself if you happened to catch them in your flashlight, baggy feathers and cap turned backward.

(To be continued…)